No, I’m not really here to dispense advice on this subject. Because, truth is, I can be difficult, especially when I am negative. And I know it makes people angry. I know when I have some sort of “episode,” it makes people frustrated. I know that what people tell me to cheer me up isn’t necessarily going to have a long term effect, because I know that true happiness comes from within.
Still, it doesn’t help me to have a friend sluff me off because of a particular negative moment. Especially because, as I said, I know what’s going on. And I am trying to fix it. But, sometimes I need help.
It is common among negative people like myself to try to fight the good points my friends throw at me during a difficult time. A “don’t be silly, of course you’re not annoying,” may cause me to list reasons why I actually am annoying. I know it’s stupid, but please don’t let me get the last word. Tell me that I’m not annoying, that I make your day sunshine-filled, that you would give anything to make me feel better. It may not seem like I’m taking it to heart at that very moment, but trust me, I am. And later, once I’ve settled down, I will replay the nice things you said to me, and it will make me feel better, it will make me feel loved, and my next panic attack will be less painful.
Please don’t be angry with me when I’m being stupid. Please remember the last time you were upset, and I told you you were the most beautiful and lovable person on the planet. And remember that just because I may be a miserable snot during that moment, doesn’t mean I’m a miserable snot in general. I may have just spent the last few days being strong for others, and it finally all caught up.
Like I said, I know that happiness comes from within. But, you are in my heart. You are my happiness. And we all need help sometimes, to get things back into perspective.
I get like that too. *hugs*
But there are people who aren’t as conscious as others when it comes to emotions. If you want to be negative, they’ll let you. It’s hard not to take it personally - I do too - but if you make it known that you are in need of comfort, that should clear up some things.
There will always be people here to listen.
*hugs Aisling* Feel better.
TBQ basically said all I wanted to say.
I always feel better when people say comforting things to me when I’m panicking, even thought it doesn’t seem like I will ever feel better at the time.
*Hugs*
It’s hard and somewhat unhealthy to try to be strong all the time. Everyone needs their down moments to appreciate their “up” moments all the more… I always try to remember that when I’m not in the best of moods.
For the record though - I think you’re one of the most cheerful and bubbly people I “know” on the internet. It’s refreshing!
I hope you’re feeling better soon!
I believe I know what you are saying Aisling… For me, I feel (at the time I’m having some kind of ‘episode’) worse when people try to comfort me or try to cheer me up. I have to kind of get over it a bit or get past a point before other’s can make me feel better and not add to my distress.
Here is a Quote for you…
“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.”
Hugs and Smooches for you.
*putskissonhandandblowsandmakestheflyingbird*
FWIW, my connection was really dodgy last night and I’d tried to function the whole hell-ish day on 3 hours of sleep… It’s not an excuse, but it’s kind of an explanation.
ily, ‘ling. <3
You can be very difficult to deal with, but I can’t help but try to help people. :P
I still think you’re fab, I know how you feel. Believe me, I have my moments.